Since I decided to quit cold turkey, a few people asked that I offer my rationale for leaving. Below you’ll find a few of the things that have been bothering me. This list covers the main reasons I decided to leave, not all.
- Democracy – Don’t take my word for it, Facebook admits Social Media can be ‘negative’ for Democracy. Maybe it’s best if we just limit Facebook to cat fails and baby pictures? I don’t know if that’s right, but until they sort this out we should be cautious.
- Russia Trolls – This is pretty well documented so I’m not going to get into it. Facebook is doing work here, but is it enough? I don’t know, and I’m not going to wait to find out.
- Data Leaks – There is plenty on this topic as well. There’s too much about me lurking in Facebook and I don’t really want to keep spoon feeding them more behavioral data.
- “Bring the world closer together” – While it is admirable to say Facebook wants to connect everyone, it’s also pretty freaky. I don’t really want or need to be connected to random people around the world. I’m good, kthanxbye. When you think about it the only one that really gets anything good out that approach is Facebook.
- Tracking Non-Users – Facebook isn’t the only one tracking people, but when you think about them tracking people that are non-users, it gets a creepy for me. I can understand why they would like to follow people around the web, building their profiles in a ‘shadow’ account hoping that they will eventually become a full user. It makes the on-boarding process much faster and drives engagement, presumably. At the same time, that can be a fair amount of data to compile.
- AI and Machine Learning – I love the potential future with both of these technologies. The stuff Facebook is doing is pretty amazing if I’m being honest, but it’s also at the expense of users. The end goal of getting users to do more money making activities inside the Facebook walled garden is what they ultimately want.
- Schools – I find it particularly troubling that school kids are asked and expected to use Facebook because administrators are too lazy or ignorant to protect our kids. Just take a look at Danah Boyd’s writings. You’d think administrators would educate themselves on what is actually being done with our kids data. Google could be doing something similar with Google Classroom, but I digress.
Since dumping Facebook from my phone a few things has happened. I am not alone. It was actually pleasing to long press on that icon. Seeing it shake in fear wondering if I really had the nerve. But as soon as my finger tapped the “x” I felt an immediate sense of relief. I could actually ignore all of the posts I was tagged in and nobody would ever know. But the dream was short lived. Emails.
I had a couple of days reprieve, but when the emails started came it was just a slow drip. Eventually the faucet was unleashed and now it’s daily, sometime multiple times a day. But email is fine, right? I mean, I can setup a filter and mark all as spam and send straight to the trash. That way Google and Facebook can fight it out. I haven’t done this yet, BTW. Or perhaps even better. I can just change my email address to that one I never use anymore, I’m looking at you Yahoo!
But Facebook has turned into that ex that just can’t get the hint. Now Facebook is sending SMS messages. I got one at lunch from a colleague. I would typically delete this, but I’m working with a person on their team and I thought it was relevant to work. So I opened it, big mistake. I’ve now reset the counter with Facebook(doh!) and I also got a good look at “Mom Memes”!?! How or why Facebook decided on that post to share with me is beyond me.
So just to be safe I check with my colleague and they confirmed they posted the Mom Meme, but did not share the post directly. Okay, so did I give my credentials away? I changed my password and removed by phone number so I can’t (I hope) get any more SMS messages from them.
I’m sure Facebook will still be there if I really want to go look at baby pictures, cats getting scared, and random vacation photos. My mission now is to enjoy life free of Facebook.